The first month of the year has slipped by already.
‘We tend to wish our lives away, wishing for something better,’ someone said at the water cooler this morning. ‘Nearly another weekend.’
‘I’m not wishing mine away,’ I thought. ‘I’m working toward something better.’
Are you wishing your life away or do you know what you want? Where you want to be?
This year marks some big decisions for me. This has meant some big changes and maybe some hard times (including squashy times as I’m living in my parents’ spare room) but I think the sacrifice is worth it to move closer to what I want.
The first step (actually made late last year) was to think about whether I was on the right track. Was I going where I wanted to go?
The answer: Not quite.
I was losing belief in ever reaching my goal, meandering toward it on a path that was becoming overgrown and hard to navigate.
Thinking about where you want to be involves asking yourself a lot of important questions. Thinking deeply and meaningfully about what is important to you and the way you spend your time, and how that impacts on those around you. (There are times I consider spending my life living in a shack on a beach somewhere scribbling away in the sun, living off the change I earn collecting flotsam – but probably not ideal for my daughter.)
It is important to note here that there is a difference between dreaming and goal setting. But I think dreaming is a great place to start, or maybe that is because I’m a day dreamer. And don’t worry about whether you have the skills for this ideal life, we will discuss that in a later post.
At a talk presented by fantasy writer Lian Tanner, last year, something she said stuck with me: She had met writers she felt were better writers than she. Yet she was published and they were not.
The reason: Lian was determined. Pure tenacity. She wanted to write and so spent the time and energy writing as best she could.
Anything you want to do will require you to work at it. Finding something meaningful will mean life will be far more enjoyable and dedication will be easier.
Action: Where do you want to be? What is your ideal life in five or ten years?
Spend some time thinking about…
- Your values
- What you enjoy
- Where you are happy
- What is important to you
- Why it is important
Make a list or mind map or diagram and define your destination.
I want to write engaging stories that pull readers into another world. And I want to do that full time, spending my days lost in the worlds I’m creating.
When you know the destination, you can map the path to get there…and that is a story for another time.